Resilient Teenagers

Resilience is the ability to deal with whatever life serves up!

It is really that simple. Resilient teenagers are those who are able to bounce back when things don’t work out as they hoped. The fear of failure doesn’t prevent them from trying. Disappointment doesn’t end in despair but is used as motivation to succeed.

So why are some teens resilient and others are not?

Resilient teenagers learn resilience!

The teenage years present plenty of challenges, both for teens and their parents. The ups and downs of adolescence can be confusing and disorientating. But they also present the opportunity for  developing the skills and attitudes that are the essence of resilience.

 Parents can either foster and nurture their teenager’s resilience, or they can restrict their teen’s capacity to overcome adversity.

Unfortunately many parents are undermining their children’s resilience – and they are not even aware they are doing it.

That’s right, there are lots of parents who are actually hampering their teen’s capacity to develop resilience. These parents are not being negligent, indulgent or careless. In fact many are doing all they can to provide the best possible upbringing for their teenager. But despite parent’s good intentions, many teenagers find life overwhelming and lack the confidence to build healthy relationships and take on new challenges.

The good news is, fixing the problem is not that hard. You don’t have to be a psychologist or parenting genius to raise a resilient teenager. Once you understand what resilience is, and how it develops, you will find opportunities in  everyday life to either help your teen develop resilience.

Parents can be unsure about how to raise resilient kids is because of the many common myths about resilience.

5 Common Resilience Myths

Resilience is something you are born with. 

The belief you some are born with more resilience than others is a complete myth.  Resilience is a learnt trait. Everyone is capable of developing and improving their resilience.

Resilience is up to the individual, there is little parents can do.

Thinking resilience is dependent entirely on the individual is entirely wrong. Resilience is shaped through relationships, particularly significant relationships.  Relationships can either enhance or undermine resilience. Parents who intentionally

Resilience only develops through experiencing significant hardship.

Significant hardship exposes how resilient someone already is.  While hardship does provide opportunities for resilience to develop, the skills and attitudes necessary for resilience can be acquired during both good and tough times.  Those who are have been enabled to develop resilience in multiple areas of life are those who are best positioned to make the most of hardship.

This generation of young people aren’t resilient

This generation of young people has exactly the same potential to develop resilience as any previous generation. The truth is today’s young people are struggling to find adults who actively assist them to become resilient.

You can’t teach resilience

You absolutely can teach resilience! It is not taught in a classroom or through a text book, but the life skills that form a resilient person can be modeled, explained, developed and improved.  Habits can be formed and encouraged that produce character that is seemingly bullet proof.

The simple truth is parents have a HUGE role to play in determining the  resilience of their kids.  No one is better placed to help a young person discover their unique strengths and capacities than a parent.

Resilience doesn’t just improve a teenager’s ability to succeed in life as an adult, it improves their journey through adolescence.

Resilient teenagers have:

  Reduced levels of anxiety

The ability to solve problems independently

Increased perseverance

Healthier relationships 

Hopeful outlook for the future

If you want to know more about how to provide your teen with the guidance and skills they need to live the fullest life possible, Raising Resilient Teenagers is a book written especially for parents of teenagers.

  • It provides easy to understand information about what resilience is and how it develops in young people.
  • It outlines the essential elements of parenting for resilience, and the traps to avoid.
  • Most of all it provides a comprehensive, step-by-step strategy for parents to teach their teen’s how to overcome life’s challenges.

Raising Resilient Teenagers also comes with a free workbook for designed to help parents refine their parenting skills.